Couple Therapy: Shared Goals
I recently posted a blog entry about Top 6 Common Mistakes Young Couples Do, if you haven't read that yet please click the link and scan it a little bit. Number 5 in that blog entry says failing to discuss goals, and discussing your personal goals with your partner is very important and very critical if you want yourself to have a healthy relationship.
As I've always pointed out in that blog post, communication is the key to a happy relationship, this way you get to know and understand each other better. I describe myself to be an open book kind of person, I am very blunt and I never sugar coat the things I'd like to say. I know that it is not always healthy to speak your mind. It can also bring harm to your relationship if you say words that will hurt the feelings of your partner. Well, I should improve on this. I think it's just a matter of balance.
I've been always open to my boyfriend of the things I want, where I want to go, where I want to eat, what I want to do. I am also expressive of the things he should and should not do. If he did something that I disapprove I make it a point to tell him right away. You see, my boyfriend and I are extremes, if I am so expressive, he is so not! And this is not a guessing game people!! If you want something, speak up! If you disapprove on something, speak up! If something in your relationship made you uncomfortable, then let your partners know.
Aside from being open to each other, I learned that it is also important for both parties to know the balance of me, you, and us. All of us have differences and in a relationship, acceptance plays a big role. From what I have learned, it is not always just communication but also to compromise with your partner is very important.
I would like to share this video I discovered which explains in detail a couple's journey to shared goals.
video credit: coupleconnection.net
